Occasionally I am faced with a social situation that puts me slightly outside of my comfort zone. Before I succumb to uncomfortable apprehension, I remind myself that I can exude grace and poise in any situation if I remember to focus on three things: speech, action and countenance.
1.Only say what is helpful and uplifting.
Be tactful yet honest.
Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11
2.Think before you speak.
It is perfectly acceptable to take time out to contemplate your words before speaking them.
This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; James 1:9
3. You have the right to remain silent.
Over the years I have come to realize that a peaceful silence is often welcome. Don't feel like you have to talk to fill the quiet.
Even a fool, when he keeps silent, is considered wise; When he closes his lips, he is considered prudent.
Look for ways to contribute good in every situation.
And let the beauty of the LORD our God be upon us: and establish thou the work of our hands upon us; yea, the work of our hands establish thou it. Psalm 90:17
I have a beautiful friend who I often share social experiences with. When the room is full of noise and often chaotic, you will find her sweetly humming as she finds something useful for her hands to attend to in order to serve others.
5.Move slowly, calmly & gracefully.
Speak gently and softly. Take deep breaths and do not feel hurried or rushed. Try to maintain a serene, peaceful composure.
1 Peter 3:3 -5 says,"3 Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; 4 but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 5
6. Focus on being kind to others.
Smile. Be lighthearted and friendly in conversation.
Ask questions, show interest in others. “A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.” Proverbs 11:25
"People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel."- Maya Angelou
7.Display a pleasant countenance.
Think pleasant thoughts. See the beauty in the world around you.
Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. Philippians 4:8
8.Fill your mind with goodness.
Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God.
9. Maintain graceful posture
Strengthen your stomach muscles and back to make good posture effortless. Try holding a 30 second plank 3 times daily. Practice holding your belly button in toward your spine. Keep you shoulders up, back and down. I enjoy Barre exercises which not only improve posture but strengthen the body. I will be posting my Barre routine so stay tuned :)
With practice and quiet confidence, you can exude grace and poise in any situation.
Grace and peace,
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